Today is my 30th Birthday!
As a kid, this was the age I always wished I could be because I thought that 30 meant having all your sh*t together, killing it in your dream career, and being married to whoever you chose in the game of MASH you played with your middle school besties.
Fast forward almost 20 years, and that’s where I am today. Minus the dream career. Minus having it all together. I did, however, get lucky in the marriage department and my kids are still alive, so I think I am doing something right, right?
But you know what, Diary? Not everything has to be perfect in your life for you to love your life! That being said, I have never felt better! I have never been more optimistic, and never been more excited about what I am currently doing with my life and what is next.
I love blogging and I am working on re-creating a business venture that I explored in the past. I am lucky to still be able to stay home with my babies and help out in their classrooms. And I am more in love today with the guy I married as a teenager over a decade ago.
Being this optimistic, satisfied, and at peace didn’t come overnight. There were a ton of lessons that I have learned along the way and I decided to share 30 of them with you:
- If you have a dream, do not let anybody tell you that it cannot come true.
- Take what you do seriously. If you don’t then you can bet that nobody else will.
- Your husband/spouse/partner won’t always see or understand your vision, but that is okay…they are not your target customer or audience.
- Know the difference between busy work and work that will actually help your business grow and make money. If/When you are able to, hire someone out to do the busy work so you can focus on the latter.
- Find a famous mentor. Even if they are not personally mentoring you one-on-one. In your entreprenurial journey you will have countless days where you need expert advice and inspiration to keep going. Even when things are going well for you. Find a famous business personality that resonates with you whose books you can read, stories and podcasts you can listen to, and events you can attend to get that “mentorship” you will need. It will make such a difference in your life and business.
6. Wash yo’ face, girl! Every night… even when you’d rather just fall asleep. Trust me.
7. Invest in “driving gloves” to protect your hands and arms from sun damage. I purchased these uv protection driving gloves over a year ago and you won’t catch me in the car without them. Yep. I look friggin’ ridiculous wearing them, but at least future Megan won’t have leathery arm skin *fingers crossed* .
8. If you have underwear with holes or discoloration, throw it out, no matter how comfortably worn in it is! Not just because it turns your husband all the way off, but because you deserve to wear beautiful things under your clothes too!
9. Invest in neutral colored pieces. They will always make you look more classy and polished when you need to go for an interview, a funeral, or to a meeting with your kids teacher.
10. If you 25+, invest in a good eye cream and add it to your daily skin care routine. It can make a world of difference. (I wrote a post on my favorite eye creams here)
11. Love your kids…unconditionally…. and let them be who they are going to be.
12. When raising your babies and little kids especially, be in the moment. Don’t think about how nice it will be in the future when you don’t have to change poopy diapers or how quiet the house will be when the kids are finally in school all day, because when those days come, you will find yourself wishing you could relive the days when your daughter would set up her play microphone in the middle of the living room to put on a show for you because she wanted to be a rock star. Or rocking and cuddling your little baby boys to sleep.
13. You are living in the good ole’ days…. now, so soak it all in and create a system to help you remember these moments. I love taking pictures and video clips. I also love to journal and keep little memento’s in ziplock’s with notes attached to it that says the date and a few sentences about what happened.
14. Your spouse is going to mess up in many ways. So are you. So forgive him, and forgive yourself. Learn from your mistakes and move forward together. Grow together. Have fun and be silly often. Make plans for the future together. Share your dreams. Fart in front of each other. Fuck. Make love. And then go to the movies and share a large popcorn.
15. It’s okay to have a breakdown every once in a while, so don’t beat yourself up about it. Your family will understand. Your neighbors may or may not care, but whatev…Just breathe, clear your head, and get your thoughts together.
16. Pay your bills–on time! I learned earlier on that having bad credit when you need or want something is a way worse feeling than having $50 less in your bank account. And it is a BITCH to repair your credit.
17. Put money aside for special events, trips, or things you know are coming up. Even if it is just $5 or $10 a week. It will add up and you will be happy that its there when its time for you to pay up.
18. Do NOT live above your means. I am half Filipino, so I am already well versed on how to live super cheap and even below my means. I cannot fully express to you just HOW GOOD it feels to not have any debt other than a mortgage.
19. Do NOT go into debt over financing a car…even if that car is your dream car. It’s not worth it. The average American spends about $600+ a month on a car payment! My husband and I drove nicer cars before we had our twins, but it sucked having car payments. After our cars were totaled and we had to get a new one, we decided that we would never be tied to a car payment again as long as we can help it. Now we drive older cars, but they are paid off and bought with cash, and even though they are not at all fancy, it sure feels good keeping that extra moolah to save or do something fun with every month.
20. Do not borrow money from family or friends unless your life depends on it. It will hang over your head and make you feel guilty for doing something fun or buying something nice, up until the second you pay it all back.
21. Use green cleaning products wherever and whenever possible. Its safer for you and your family.
22. Recycle everything that you can. Global warming is real and right now the earth needs your help to combat it.
23. If you need help cleaning, its worth it to invest in a cleaning service if you can. If not, call your mom, sister, or aunt (or someone else you trust that is not judgemental), to let them know what your situation is with cleaning, and ask them if they can help you.
24. You don’t need things to make you happy. Don’t be attached to things. Start giving things away that are not sentimental or that you don’t really need/use. You will feel so much lighter and better when your home is cleared of all the clutter. Plus, it’s a tax write off if you donate it to a non-profit thrift shop.
25. Just do whatever needs to be done and get it over with. No matter how much you ignore it, it won’t magically disappear or clean itself.
26. It’s easy to become someones friend. It’s hard to get rid of them when you find out how much of a psychopath they really are! With this being said, be careful who you let into your “inner circle of trust.”
27. Some of the people closest to me know that I value their honesty, so why should it be any different when its the other way around? Be honest and upfront with your friends about everything. Yes, you can do this in a tactful way.
28. Treat everyone the way that you would want to be treated. Be kind, be compassionate and forgiving.
29. Don’t force a friendship or relationship to happen. If it’s there, then cool. If not, then that is fine too.
30. If you are an introvert, like myself, then you know how hard and draining it is to make friends and be around people, period! But sometimes it is worth it to take the chance and step out of your comfort zone.